Unless we are mindful of the power of our speech, it is not always innately easy to keep our focus on the positive aspects of our mate. In fact, I would venture so far as to say that it is so much easier to point our finger and play the blame game when our relationships are strained and/or fall apart. But where does that get us, really? Energy flows where our attention goes and by engaging in the blame game we are focusing our energy on everything we don’t like about what our mate did or did not do, said or did not say. All this behavior accomplishes is to actually create more and more of what you dislike. There is no sense in blaming yourself either, so don’t even go there. Say, “No” to the blame game; refer back to Tip #1, and then choose to shift your focus to what actually went right, like children, pets, adventures, experiences, etc.